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What You Should Not Do When You’re Grieving

  • Don’t suppress your feelings – allow yourself to cry and release your emotional pain.
  • Don’t isolate yourself – reach out to family and friends, stay connected over the phone if you can’t meet in person. Share your thoughts and feelings with those you feel safe with and don’t hesitate to ask for help, emotional support or whatever else you need, even if it’s just company to go for a walk.
  • Don’t interact with toxic people who drain your energy or make you feel bad about yourself.
  • Don’t neglect your health – make sure you eat nutritious meals, drink enough water to stay hydrated, exercise regularly and get the sleep your body needs to feel rested.
  • Don’t rush into anything or put pressure on yourself with shoulds and shouldn’ts. Allow yourself time to heal before taking any major decision or making any change in your life, if there’s no urgent need to do so.
  • Don’t overthink. Refrain from brooding over the past and replaying any painful memories in your mind, or thinking ahead to the future. Try to keep your attention on the present and live one day at a time. A daily meditation and mindfulness practice will enable you to stay centered and in the present, and help you have greater peace of mind.
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The Importance of Gratitude

One of the best ways to shift your thinking from the positive to the negative is by feeling grateful. When you do this, you are likely to discover that you have countless blessings in your life—these could be your loving family and friends, your work, your good health, your talents or simply the remarkable natural beauty around you—which hitherto you may not have been aware of, or you may have simply taken them for granted.

A nightly practice of self-reflection when you review your day and give thanks for all your blessings before you go to bed, can also be very comforting. This can be a simple process of self-observation without any sort of analysis or criticism of the recollections of the day.

Simple, everyday things can give you immense joy, but you have to notice them first. Unfortunately, most of us tend to take the simple joys for granted and typically don’t pay attention to them, appreciate them or feel grateful for them. There is plenty of evidence from research studies that links gratitude to happiness, health, and stronger relationships. A 2011 study found that people were motivated and energized when they experienced gratitude, while a 2009 study discovered that gratitude led people to believe they deserved positive outcomes for themselves and could achieve them. In a 2003 study, participants who counted their blessings reported fewer physical symptoms of illness.

Make gratitude part of your daily life and experience a shift in your mood and overall outlook to life!